Your complete guide to understanding female sexual arousal - LOVE DEPOT
Your complete guide to understanding female sexual arousal.

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Added on: Jul 16, 2021

    Understanding how female sexual arousal works can be quite tricky. When it comes to arousing women in bed, there are various techniques to follow. Every woman is unique, and different techniques work for different women. However, it is important to know the various techniques that you can use to increase sexual desire in bed.  In this blog by Love Depot, let us look at how to turn women on and what turns them off. 

    Female sexual arousal may seem like a complicated subject. However, it is not at all complicated. Some techniques can be practised outside of the bedroom to trigger sexual arousal in women.  Techniques outside of the bedroom focus on brain chemistry and emotional intelligence which can surely help build female sexual pleasure. 

    Arousing women- Outside the bedroom

    Simple public display of affection-

    Simple things like holding hands or a peck on the cheek can transform your dynamic with your partner. Not only are these techniques insanely cute, they definitely can be a turn on for women as there are 40,000 nerve endings in the palm. Next time you’re going on a walk with her, don’t shy away from holding hands. When women see that you are not afraid or embarrassed to be seen around them, or rather, happy to be around them, they can get turned on. 

    A  warm hug-

    Somedays are truly bad, especially because of the pandemic. If she is having a bad day, a warm embracing hug can help build intimacy. Sex experts recommend hugging for 20 seconds and more if you like. Hugs are comforting and show that you care. It is a sweet, and thoughtful gesture that shows your partner that you care for them outside of your bedroom as well. Ironically, that helps build female sexual arousal!

    Maintain eye contact-

    Not maintaining eye contact is a huge turn off for women especially when they are talking to you. Gazing into each other’s eyes is a powerful way to build sexual tension. It is recommended to practise this both during sex and outside of a sexual setting. Maintaining eye contact helps them know that you are listening and any man that listens can win the heart of a woman. If you have been in a relationship for a long time, then try to take 2 minutes to look into each other’s eyes. Once a month would do too. Don’t talk and accept the outcome that may not be sexual, such as an awkward laugh! Be vulnerable, goofy and silly around each other. 

    Flirt with her-

    It may not be possible to increase sexual desire in just a few minutes, but there are techniques to build that tension, slowly, throughout the day. If you do not know your partner that well, start with a simple and cute text such as “I am excited to see you tonight.”  Slowly, if she is comfortable and flirts back, try and send something more sexual like “I cannot resist myself around you” or something along those lines.  Not only does this help with building female sexual arousal, but it also shows that you are excited to be with her. 

    Female sexual arousal- In a sexual setting 

    Now that we have learnt some tips that help build female sexual arousal, let us also look at few tips that help in the bedroom. 

    Focus on foreplay-

    Spending time on foreplay is key when it comes to arousing women. These extra few minutes help build tension and passion in bed. You can make use of toys like bullet vibrators or G-Spot vibrators as well. Focusing on foreplay can turn women on because it shows that you wish to pay attention to all parts of her body. A gentle kiss on the neck or a passionate kiss on the lips can show your interest in her while turning her on. Additionally, you can use vibrators on other erogenous zones as well. 


    Massage oil or wax is such a powerful tool when it comes to female sexual arousal. A massage can help her feel comfortable, and relax completely. Such an erotic gesture helps ease tension as well. A massage after sex is also a sweet and recommended gesture as sex can get tiring. 


    Roleplaying is a very common practice by couples all around the world. Different people have different fetishes. For example, some enjoy BDSM, whereas some enjoy taking up characters. Roleplaying calls for dirty talk which can completely transform your sex life. Making steamy statements are all very important parts of sex. Next time you are in bed, try to compliment her body, or her performance and see how that feels. 

    Surprise her-

    Surprise her with perhaps a sex toy such as anal beads, handcuffs etc. New experiences increase the thrill that she experiences during sex. If you do not wish to gift her something, try a new position or gesture. Your willingness to try and experiment is an indication that you wish to please her in new and enjoyable ways. Another way to build female sexual arousal is to make the setting different or special. Planning a small getaway, or taking her out to a dinner show are all wonderful ways to turn women on.

    Know her body-

    While you may know the common erogenous zones of women, turn-ons are still relative. Understand what she likes and try to do that. For example, some women may have sensitive skin and may not like biting. While many other women like sex a little rough and wild. Another instance where it is important to understand your partner’s body is the clitoris. While having oral sex understand which techniques increase sexual desire in her. Therefore, it is not enough if you know what women like, but you should also learn what she likes. 

    Communicate openly-

    This is perhaps the most important tip when it comes to female sexual arousal. Many women are left unsatisfied in bed and that can impact your dynamic. There is absolutely no shame in asking if she enjoyed and felt comfortable as well. Communication is recommended between two partners. It truly helps the couple to understand each other’s expectations and help draw boundaries as well. Remember that great sex won’t happen overnight and it is okay to not perform up to each other’s expectations. Talking about each other’s performance in bed, and listening to each other’s negative and positive comments on the same is a powerful way to achieve female sexual pleasure. 

    What not to do when it comes to female sexual arousal-

    Here are some things that you need to avoid in bed and outside of bed.

    • Do not focus only on your satisfaction during sex 
    • Do not push her when she is uncomfortable. Not practising consent is a huge turn off for women.
    • Referencing your previous experiences during sex is a big turn off. 
    • Insulting their body, or personality both in bed and outside a sexual setting
    • Not kissing enough. While not all sexual relationships involve love, completely avoiding kissing is considered to be off-putting by many women.  
    • Do not talk throughout sex. While dirty talk is encouraged, you also need to draw a line. 
    • Not showing any gesture that you are enjoying yourself.  Simple gestures like holding hands, smiling or moaning can all show that you are enjoying sex. 

    In conclusion, many techniques work when it comes to arousing women. At the end of the day, female sexual arousal is relative and completely depends on the partner. The most important takeaway would be to openly communicate with your partner to know her body, likes and dislikes. Understand and remind yourself that sex takes time and practice. Give her attention and respect her outside of the bed and during sex as well. Doing so will build emotional intimacy and leads the way to hot and passionate sex. For more such blogs, visit our website.

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    Added on: Nov 28, 2022

      They say a lube can really uplift a sexual experience by encouraging a sense of smoothness, confidence and consistency in maintaining a comfortable rhythm. Couples can use and should treat lubes as an add-on, especially when they intend to experiment with positions and toys. In fact, using them with sex toys - whether you’re alone or with your partner, is an essential step in making your sexual journey as smooth as possible - pun intended.

      The market has an array of lubricants available and while they all serve the same purpose, their ingredients can and do differ. The most popular bases for lubes are:

      • Water
      • Silicone
      • Oil
      • Natural


      One of the most popular choices from the world of lubes is water-based lubricants. They have no taste, feel very much like natural lubrication and are less likely to irritate or inflame sensitive skin. They are safe to use during oral sex as well and are generally absorbed quickly by the skin unlike others. Added benefits include being completely compatible with condoms - as compared to most oil-based sex lubes or petroleum jellies that can corrode latex. They are also extremely compatible with sex toys and we highly recommend using it during your play time.


      These lubricants do not contain water. While it may work for many, and not so much for others, your sexual journey is not set in stone and exploring your choices is a healthy way to understand what works best for your skin and body. These feel a little different on the skin as they don’t get absorbed quickly like water or oil as silicone-based lubes are hypoallergenic in nature. They can be safely used with condoms and don't require as many reapplications. The only major drawback is that it cannot be used with sex toys as they tend to solidify on them and may leave a sticky residue. 


      If you want to avoid reapplying lube, we recommend you use an oil-based lubricant. But bear in mind that these lubes are not compatible with latex condoms. There’s a risk of the condom ripping or tearing during the act - making it unsafe and compromising on the protection factor (against STDs and unplanned pregnancies). Some other concerns that rise with using oil-based lubricants include staining of sheets and clothes. But they can be doubled up and used for massaging your partner, so go ahead and give it a try some time. We recommend you don’t use oil-based lubes with sex toys as it can hamper the quality of the silicone and damage it.


      There’s always going to be a time when going natural is a ‘natural’ choice for many. Especially for those who are concerned about certain ingredients that go into the manufactured products. In such cases, using coconut oil is a popular choice. But it comes with added risks like condom breakage and staining of sheets. Also, the coconut oil used for daily activities should be separate from the one being used for your sexual activities. Avoid using it with sex toys as they aren’t compatible.

      Now that we’ve given a detailed lowdown on the various types of lubes available, it’s up to you to make the right choice for you and/or your partner. Remember to stick to water-based lubricants if you intend to use them with sex toys. Find our entire collection of lubes here:

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      Added on: Nov 28, 2022

        Ever wondered if there’s something out there for you to experience firmer erections, better stamina delayed ejaculations without actually consuming any form of drug or medication? Well, say hello to Vibrating Rings aka Penis Rings aka Cock Rings.

        Multiple names, one fabulous goal. Penis rings - whether they vibrate or not - can pump up your sexual performance to a whole new level. Maybe it’s time you explored this side and became your own very own “lord of the rings”...Excuse the pun, but you know what we mean, right?

        Key Features: Most Vibrating Rings are designed for extra pleasure. They are discreet, waterproof, and noise-free. They are made with quality silicone and have zero allergens - making it safe on skin.

        How to use? All vibrating rings are designed keeping in mind the same end goal - ie. to deliver the ultimate form of pleasure. But here are a few essential steps to keep in mind while using them.

        Step 1: Before putting on a cock ring, apply and spread a decent amount of lube around the inner part. This will help it slide down a penis more easily. Note: Preferably use a water-based lube to avoid causing damage to the ring. Step 2: Make sure your well-lubricated penis is semi-erect while placing the ring over the head and sliding it down the shaft and onto the base. You can place it over a fully erect penis as well, depending on your girth or the size of the ring.  Step 3: Start off with a position you and your partner are comfortable with - like missionary or even doggy in some cases and then you can move on to experimenting once you’ve got the hang of it. Important note: Avoid keeping a cock ring on for more than 20-30 minutes. Although the blood flow restriction is usually safe in short bursts, it can eventually turn painful after prolonged use.

        Why use it? The joy of mutual stimulation can be ultra exciting so why not give your sex life a sensual upgrade? Vibrating Rings are available in various shapes and forms but are all designed to be adjustable to make sure it fits no matter what size. The beauty of using these with your partner is that it works towards achieving mutually explosive and almost synchronised orgasms. Yes, it’s possible.

        Some of these rings are ergonomically designed with a small appendage or extension, which is almost like a small bullet vibrator which which is meant for clitoral stimulation, which is key to achieving wholesome female orgasms.

        Some rings are designed to enhance a man’s performance by curbing the blood flow to the penis - leading to harder and long-lasting erections. A smarter choice to make over popping pills, what say?

        Some vibrating rings come with bluetooth technology. These rings can be controlled with  a few good buttons and  take your orgasms to the next level. Explore and play with a range of different vibration modes to level-up your sexual experience.

        Couples in long distance relationships can invest in a vibrating ring that can be controlled no matter where you are in the world, with the help of an app connected to your ring - making sure your intimacy game stays strong and exciting despite the distance!

        If you’d like to check out the various kinds of Vibrating Rings that are available for your pleasure, here’s the range available on our website.

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        Added on: Nov 28, 2022

          Hello you. Welcome to this space - it’s safe and non-judgemental, with a whole lot of information on how to go about your sexual journey with an array of toys. Yes, we mean sex toys… And no, we aren’t going to shy away from the subject matter.

          The world of sex toys has a lot to offer and finding the one that works best for you is something we are excited about. For those wondering if it’s safe to use them… Yes, absolutely. Every toy has something wonderful to offer and is designed to be safe for intimate use.

          Let's talk about the various kinds of toys that are available for your pleasure. But first, it’s essential for you to know what you like and the kind of stuff you’re into. Are you into solo play or couple play? Or maybe both? Well, we can broadly segregate the many toys available on Love Depot into 2 major categories. 

          For Solo Play Enthusiasts It’s time to give “self love” a whole new meaning because having a partner isn’t a necessity anymore. Apt for those who are single, aren’t exploring or indulging in casual (but responsible) sex, these toys are designed to achieve exciting solo play experiences. They can work wonders as you slowly explore your own body, understand it better and take a deep dive in the world of self-stimulating pleasure.

          For Sexually Explorative Couples Sometimes adding certain sex toys to the mix of your sexual encounters with a partner is a great way to add a hint of exciting spice to your sexual bond. One may think it may hamper and maybe even overpower or replace the “human touch” experience. But don’t worry! We believe it has the power to amplify your sexcapades, deliver mutually stimulating orgasms and so much more. Sounds amazing, right? It certainly can be.

          Here are 6 product types that we think you should know about and consider owning at some point in your l

          G-SPOT VIBRATORS Safe to use on skin, waterproof and rechargeable every few hours, these toys are meant to be hybrid in nature. Strategically designed to hit the spot - pun intended, we believe it is a great way to explore and stimulate a woman’s g-spot. Whether you’re new to the world of toys or someone who is in the process of building a collection, a range of vibrating toys are available for various levels and have anywhere between 10-15 vibration modes to make the journey towards achieving explosive orgasms a lot more thrilling. Here are all the G-spot Vibrators available on our website.

          Ideal for: Mainly used for solo play but can be experimented with during couple play.

          TIPS TO USE: How you go about using these toys will depend on the toy itself. Most of them come with a basic step by step guide on how to use them but here are some things to keep in mind while using any g-spot vibrator.

          • Use enough lube and be gentle as you slowly work on yourself.
          • Eventually you can experiment with different levels of thrusting, slow massaging, clenching around the toy, gentle stroking and more, to see which technique works wonders for your g-spot.

          CLITORAL VIBRATORS Designed to deliver ultimate pleasure to a woman via clitoral stimulation, these vibrators have the power to empower a woman and her sexual needs. Give your clitoris the attention and love it desires with super sensual and manually customizable vibrations that make for great variations in the way you climax. Some toys are discreet enough to be used beyond your bedroom and even while you go about your day.

          Here are all the Clitoral Vibrators available on our website.

          Ideal for: Mainly used for solo play but can be experimented with during couple play.I

          TIPS FOR USE: It’s important you feel comfortable before choosing the play with these vibrators. Lay down alone or with your partner and explore this wonderful tool together. They usually have different vibration modes to offer. Here are some things to keep in mind during usage.

          • Begin with by gently using it over your erogenous zones ie. neck, breasts, thighs, shoulder, etc.
          • Eventually move to your vagina and play around with the various vibration modes to see what stimulates you the best. You can do this with or without a partner. Doing it with a partner is almost like a lesson in communication and bonding so go ahead and make it worth their while!
          • Once done, don’t forget to wash the vibrator with warm water and unscented soap. Store away in a cool and dry place

          AIR PULSE STIMULATOR Just when you think you’ve understood the beauty that is the clitoral and g-spot vibrator/massager, here comes another crazy toy. Adorable to look at but has a reputation to deliver bomb dot com orgasms, the Air Pulse Stimulator is every solo play enthusiast’s must-have. These come with multiple sucking or pulsing modes that are designed to stimulate the clitoris, but can also be used on nipples and other sexually sensitive zones to let your body reach climax is the most versatile way! Here are all the Air Pulse Stimulators available on our website.

          Ideal for: More commonly used for solo play but can also be used during couple play.

          TIPS FOR USE: Designed to engulf the clitoris with a gentle suction with zero touch pressure waves, they can make a woman cum with minimal to no touch. Here are some things to keep in mind why using a pressure wave clitoral stimulator like the Air Pulse.

          • Use a water-based lube on and around the clitoris as well as the ring of the stimulator’s cup. This should help create a good seal around the clitoris.
          • Keep the vibration setting low while starting off and adjust the intensity as and when you believe you’re ready to handle it.

          PENIS RINGS Rings that make you feel the “power”, these toys are designed to help men experience firmer erections, better stamina and delayed ejaculations. Penis rings aka cock rings come in various shapes and forms. Some don’t even come with the vibration mode but still do the job well. A smart man would ideally choose to invest in this ring rather than pills to consume to improve her overall “performance”. The vibration versions are great for the partner too as it enhances and encourages mutual orgasms. Here are all the Penis Rings available on our website.

          Ideal for: Mostly used for couple play.

          TIPS FOR USE Using a penis ring correctly can really enhance your sexual experience. Here are a few tips to keep in mind to make sure the usage is at its full potential.

          • Don’t forget to apply a decent amount of lube before slipping it on.
          • Do not use the ring for more than 20-30 minutes in one go. Prolonged usage can lead to a painful and unpleasant experience.

          MASTURBATORS AKA STROKERS Ergonomically designed to give a penis a real-life sensation of blow jobs and hand jobs, the pleasure stroker can be a vibrating boon - especially for men who are single and don’t have the opportunity to practice casual sex (responsibly, of course!). It offers 15 different vibrating patterns at 5 varying speeds - basically there’s no competing with it. Don’t just limit it to solo play though. Couples can use it to take their foreplay game to the next level. It’s waterproof, travel-friendly and will give you unbelievably thrilling orgasms. Here are all the Masturbators available on our website.

          Ideal for: More commonly used for solo play but can also be used during couple play.

          TIPS FOR USE: The joy of being able to experience the pleasure of a blowjob or hand job is unparalleled and most men would agree with that. So here are a few tips to keep in mind while using the stroker - designed to give you striking orgasms.

          • Use a generous amount of a water-based lube before sliding it on. Make sure it is wrapped around the shaft of your penis.
          • Start off slow when it comes to exploring the vibration modes and then move on to experimenting with different levels.
          • They’re easy to use, safe and ergonomically designed for intimate use, waterproof and allergen-free. Just make sure you wash them with warm water and unscented soap and store them in a cool and dry place to maintain the quality of the toys.
          Now that you’ve got a quick and easy lowdown on the world of sex toys, we recommend you explore the entire range we have to offer on our website.

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