Oral Sex Moves You Should Know
Personally, I'm not a fan of the term "blow job." It sounds silly. "Giving head" sounds dirtier and more adult. But Oral sex makes the gyneac in me feel most comfortable. We all have that one friend who genuinely likes giving head, and honestly - kudos! But for those of you, like me, who are happy to learn more - the only way out is practice…or this blog post!
Here's a starter pack on how you can take your oral sex game to the next level!
1. Don't just dive in. Go slow. Most men are insecure about their penises - is it too small, is it too dark, did her ex have a bigger one…you get the drift. Much like us, they too need to feel secure and confident in their junk. That’s why, the speed at which you go can make your man hyper-aware of what you think of his goods. You don’t want them to feel like you’re desperate to get it over with - so take your time.
2. Make sure you are up to doing it. Personally, I find that if I am not in the right headspace prior to going down on a guy, I'm probably not going to enjoy myself or do a very good job of it. His pleasure starts with me - I have to be having a good time in order for him to have a good time.
3. Taking off clothes can be one of the hottest parts of sex -- don't rush it. Massage him through his pants for a little bit. Make a show of pulling his penis out. Do it slowly, look at him first before you dive in.
4. Flick the frenulum. The frenulum is located on the underside of the penis head, which for many men is the most sensitive part of the penis. When you're ready, start with gentle flicks on the frenulum with the tip of your tongue. Flick it back and forth, up and down, slowly creeping your lips up over his head, then backing off. The heat from your mouth and your breath will make him throb with anticipation -- practically begging you to slide it in your mouth.
A really fun way to up your oral sex game is to throw some flavour into the mix. Flavoured condoms and flavoured lubes can make blow jobs so much more fun and flavourful if you’re into that kinda thing. They come in very interesting variants and can add a lot of excitement to oral play. Plus, using condoms when you go down on someone is the best way to avoid STIs, and honestly, the flavour will leave you with a muuuuch better taste in your mouth.
