Anal Toys for Beginners: Everything to Know

Curious about the backdoor but not sure where to start? Dr. Tanaya walks you through it, from choosing a first toy to finding the P-spot.

Who is this for?
Anyone curious about anal play, whatever your body and whatever your orientation. If you’ve wondered how to start, what to buy, or how to keep it comfortable, this is for you.

Introducing our Faculty: Dr. Tanaya
Dr. Tanaya, award-winning Oxford trained doctor, best-selling author, and the charismatic maestro known as @dr_cuterus on social media, is an esteemed expert in the realm of pleasure and sexual wellness. With her scientific rigour and enchanting storytelling, she captivates hearts and minds, empowering all who cross her path. Creating a safe and inclusive space, she guides individuals to explore and embrace the wondrous possibilities of their own pleasure.

Always use a lubricant
This is the one rule that matters most. The anus doesn’t make its own lubrication, so use plenty, and reapply when you need to. Pick a lube that suits your toy’s material.

Start small
Beaded toys and small plugs are good first picks. They come in graduated sizes, so you can begin with the smallest and move up when you feel ready. Go slowly, and stop if anything hurts.

Choose a toy with a flared base
Anything used anally should have a flared base or a handle, so it can’t slip too far in.

Men have a G spot?
Yes, sort of. The prostate, often called the P-spot, can be stimulated through the front wall of the rectum, and many people find it intensely pleasurable. A prostate massager is made for exactly this. Its curved shape is designed to reach the P-spot, and many people find it leads to orgasms like never before.

It is for everyone
Anal play isn’t tied to any sexual orientation. It’s for anyone who is curious, and who wants to try it. Check out our anal play collection here.